Joan,
I'm a control freak, too, but I like your advice to yourself to relax more when traveling.
Since one of my talents is NOT reading maps, I use Streets & Trips to plan my route and places to stay along the way. I also plug that into my Garmin GPS since as a solo RVer, I want to be sure I know where I am at all times and how to detour if I need to.
I map out where likely campgrounds (or even WalMarts) are for overnight stays along the way to my major destination since I rarely drive over 250 miles in one day.
My destinations are usually state or national parks as I prefer them over "cookie cutter" RV parks.
One of my most memorable carefully planned trips was the Blue Ridge Parkway. I was determined I wanted to see every single milepost of it and I wanted to drive it in two seasons. So wherever I stopped along the way, I made sure I came right back to where I had left the Parkway. I drove up in the spring, spent the summer in Shenandoah area, and drove back in the fall for the leaves turning.
Here's the link to the beginning of my love affair with the Blue RIdge Parkway:
http://www.maliasmiles.com/blueridge/parkway.htmMy mother joined me for the trip northbound and she counts that as one of the best times of her life, too! I also did some pages for my more personal "Inspiration's Journey" website about that:
http://www.maliasrv.com/blueridge/parkway1.htmI rarely make reservations, either. I more like to leave things open for those special serendipity moments that you just can't plan for.
Only thing left to say is Happy Trails!
Malia