Why Are People like that?

[PatStab]

I just don't understand it. This afternoon I pulled into my spot in the Circus Circus KOA. I get out of the motorhome and start doing my hookups and unhookups of the toad. There were 2 couples laughing and talking next to their TT. It's like as soon as they saw me, THE WOMAN, doing all I need to do to set up they turn their back on me. No one speaks, no one looks at me. They all get up and leave. Later the guy was out while I was getting some things out of the car, never once turned my way.

Now I'm not the prettiest woman in the world by far but not the ugliest either. I do stand 5'9" and I'm to be 68 soon. I don't bother anyone, will hire someone to help me if things break or I need something done. I don't ask for help, I don't need it, my husband calls once or twice a day and helps me with any advice I need. My motorhome isn't new but its pretty nice looking and clean, I have pictures on other forums, just looked at the process here and decided not to go through all that. My toad is a 2005. I don't feel I need to haul my 2013 Cadillac SRX around with me to prove my worth or anything, or to make myself presentable to people such as that. Those folks have a decent TT and truck, nothing over the top just decent. Of course my daughter thinks its always because of her, sometimes it is, but noone has even seen her today, so like I told her, don't be silly.

This is not an everytime thing, just occasionally. But it does happen. I also get, are you driving that thing? Wow, how can you do that by yourself, etc. And I think the women are the worst. Does this happen to any of you? I was in a terrific mood and pretty happy, I won't let it bother me for long, but are women like us that unusual or threatening or something? Today it got to me, jeez.

[MelissaD]

Took me a long time to learn I can't control how others act of behave so I try not sweat it, besides the bank probably owns their RV

You should see the looks I get when I sit down at my camp fire with a tumbler of Gentleman Jack and light a nice big ole cigar.

Make yourself happy and out live them, that's my motto.

[avalen]

My motto, what you see is what you get, I'm not here to make you (meaning the world) happy, only to make me happy.
I'm quick to ignore someone if I need to. (((((hugs)))))

[IrishIroamed]

Just small minded people thinking they'd have to help you if they watched or talked to you. If they actually took the time to see you do stuff, they'd probably be awestruck.

[dayspring39]

I think all of the women on the road get those comments and looks and yes stares... But more often than not they offer to help. Those that don't are maybe just in awwww of how ever could a WOMAN do that!!! And they have way too much on their minds...

Good for you... roll on...
Kathleen

[sharon]

They're just low class idjets, ignore them, not worth your time.

[bluepinecones]

My campground experience is pretty limited compared to most of the ladies here but I have already encountered the same experience you mentioned several times. However, I have also found many more positive situations. Yesterday was one of the really good ones (see my post about Fantastic Fan under maintenance thread).
Think you just kind to have to learn to ignore the bad ones.

[chalet05]

Yep, just ignore them because the number of friendly people is greater. I'll admit having men ask me if I drove all that way by myself still gets me - and I get it with the truck and camper just as much as I did with the 5er. The women being 'surprised' doesn't bother me because that was me at one point.

[PatStab]

Yes, you hear how enlightened the world is, Ha! They still want to keep women in their place, that's easy to understand by men wanting to control our wombs.

Can you imagine with that happening here trying to change attitudes in some of the less developed parts of the world.

I could have gone to Qatar with my husband and I told him I would never survive in some Arab country, I would be in trouble quick with my outspoken ways.

I have always been different, my husband never says I can't don't something in fact, he encourages me, that's why we have stayed married so long. My dad, though old fashioned, did in a lot of ways.

Anyway, thankfully, the nice folks outweigh the ones like this. I will likely smile and get them to speak before I'm out of here. I put a special effort into it for folks like them!! Yeah, I'm a bad old lady.

[BarbaraRose]

Well, the women were probably afraid their husbands would start asking them to do the work on their rigs, after seeing you doing it, and the men were probably intimidated with seeing a women do "all the hard work" they have to do (and probably doing it better than them!). Ha!

And couples sometimes ignore singles for some reason. Don't bend over backwards trying to befriend them. Just smile and say hi and leave it at that unless they initiate something more.

I bought my own boat back about 28 years ago (I was 25) and I was one of the only women on our lake at tha time who had one. I got a lot of flack too. "Did your daddy buy that for you?" "Sorry honey, you can't park at this dock. It is for members only", (which I was a member). Etc, etc.. And of course when something was wrong with the engine, the boat mechanics wouldn't listen to me about what was wrong with it (I grew up on the lake with boats and two brothers who know boat motors inside and out). Finally, they discovered I was right and knew what I was talking about.

Even yesterday, my friend at work owns a bass boat and fishes all the time. One of her customers said "cool, a chick with a boat!" At least he was positive about it. I am sure she gets lots of looks when she launches it too. She is only about 5' tall so looks a lot younger than her 28 years.

So there are still clueless people out there who think women can't do things men can do. They just aren't as enlightened as we are!

[Gentleladybear]

We are pioneers for women in travel units no matter what they are. I use to get the same looks when I climbed off my motorcycle and pulled my helmet off. When I am setting up I am so busy could care less if they look, stare or snicker, they wish they could do what I am doing, but just don't have the guts to get out there and do it. Their loss.

[linann]

Gee, and I thought they were just jealous!

[snowball]

that is too bad....for sure they don't know how nice you are...(got to met Pat in Q) and how nice your motor home is...
just enjoy your stay in Vegas ...Saw you the other day but you were parking and I was moving so didn't even get a wave in
be safe as you head across the states...
sheila

[PatStab]

Thanks Sheila, for some reason I kept calling you Shirley.

Oh its ok, most of the time it doesn't bother me, but once in awhile it is so obvious its rude. You know haven't seen them here since, so who knows.

We enjoyed today though I had things to take care of this morning so couldn't get out and about till this afternoon.

I'm having a time. I broke a cap off a tooth before I left, it was an old cap and I think it had a root canal so doesn't bother me. Well wouldn't you know today at lunch I thought I bit on something hard and then my bite didn't feel right. For goodness sakes I lost the top off of an implant, now I have one out on each side of my mouth. I'll be down to eating creme of wheat before I get back home.
I'm thinking of possibly going through the Woodlands in Texas on the way back home and see if my oral surgeon can go ahead and pull the upper one and prep it for an implant, has to heal for 6 to 9 months. He likes to do a bone graft to make sure it sets good. The steel or titanium shank is still in my jaw, just lost the top. Then when its ready they can just do both at once. Big $$$$$ is the bad part, man oh man.

[PatStab]

Ha, I got them to speak.

This morning 2 guys sitting out there when we were leaving, they did look our way, I just said good morning and they spoke back.

Came home this evening, woman looking other way. I again said Hi, how you doing, she says fine, we keep walking. He! He! I told you I would at least make them speak. I'm not trying to be their friend but its rude to not at least acknowledge anothers presence.