Nancy, I am so sorry to read your neighbor is making your life even more difficult. You are definitely in my prayers and I agree that I hope everything goes in your direction and he gets stuck with HUGE legal fees. I don't have a shovel, but can certainly go get one!
I am glad you have your brother and son there for you. Lean on them all you can. I agree about taking just the short little trips too. They can ease your mind just to get away for a weekend, or a couple days. We are all here for you. Lean on us too. We have broad shoulders and can be good sounding boards. I know you have thought everything through and it does sound like you are making good decisions for you. Just call me or PM me anytime you need to just talk.
Prayers and {{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} to you and for you.