Thanks from Margie (Ms"B"Haven)

[MsBHaven]

I want to thank all of you for the words of support and caring during the loss of our son, Toby. Some messages from "old" friends and some from "new" friends - what a great group of women you are. Your words of comfort and prayers were very meaningful.

My son was 39, had been divorced for over 2 years, but had hoped they could get back to together. They lived together off and on during their divorce. They lived in TN but Toby had decided to move to AL to try and start over. He immediately got a day job and a night job. He had to return to TN last week and apparently the marriage was finally over for them - they had been high school sweethearts and had a beautiful 9-year daughter. On the way back to AL and work, Toby and a semi-truck had a wreck - Toby was unconscious for 20 minutes and spent the night in the hospital with a concussion. He was released the next day and he headed to AL. The State Trooper said it was a miracle he wasn't killed in the wreck. There is also a possibility that he shouldn't have been prescribed Xanax after his concussion.

Toby had been in the hospital a couple of months ago for heart problems, anxiety and depression. He had stopped taking his medication. Alcohol increased when he returned from working in Iraq. He was found in his bed on a Saturday morning. Nothing look out of place, everything indicated he planned to be at work on Monday. The autopsy report takes 4 to 6 months in Alabama.

We returned to our home in Florida to determine if my eye doctor will allow me to travel yet (Detached Retina-Gas Bubble in eye). He wasn't too happy that I had gone to Alabama, but the low elevation didn't cause my eye any problems. It will probably be another 3 weeks before we can take the motor home to TN for grave side services. His ex-wife and friends will hold the memorial service without us.

Obituary:

Toby Louis Froelich, age 39, passed away in Foley, Alabama on July 28, 2012. After graduation Toby enlisted in the US Navy and later obtained his Associate of Applied Science in Chemistry at Volunteer State Community College in and his Bachelor of Science in Chemistry at Tennessee State University in Nashville.

During his career he worked at Baptist Hospital, Aegis Sciences Corporation, Test America, and DynCorp as a Iraqi Forensic Science Advisor and Trainer for the Iraqi Police Officers in Baghdad Iraq through the USA Department of Defense. He received a personal certificate of appreciation from the Brigadier General, USA, Michael R. Smith.

He is survived by his 9-year old daughter, MacKenzie Noelle Froelich, and her mother Susan Cross Froelich; mother, Margie Drake Froelich Woodall, of Florida and her husband, Roger Woodall; grandmother, Ola Belle Woodall, his father Louis Edmond Froelich and wife, Deborah of Gallatin; step-brother, Scott Woodall (Paula) of Portland; step-sister Gina McElhiney (Mikel) of Portland, step-sister Donna Diller (Eric) of Gallatin.

Cremation was in Foley, Alabama. A memorial service will be held in Tennessee at a later date.

[Liz]

What a difficult time for you all. I'm still holding you in my thoughts and prayers. (((hugs)))

[Barbzeee]

OH my Margie.. I'm so so sorry for your loss.. and keeping you and the family
in my prayers...... Hoping you get that eye problem resolved as well...

God's Blessings Shine Down on You All !

Zeee

[BirdbyBird]

Will be thinking of you and wishing you continued strength...to hold onto during those days when the hurt rolls over you....

[bluepinecones]

Oh, I've been off the forum for couple of weeks and missed the sad news of your loss. You and Roger are in my prayers.

[Bethers]

Oh, Margie, what a sad, sad time. I can imagine the scare with the accident, then feeling blessed that he survived it. And then to be struck again! It's terrible that autopsies take so dang long. It really sounds like he was, with difficulty, making the decisions to move on with his life. A life that was cut way, way too soon.

Take care of your eye - and my continued thoughts and prayers for all of you.

[Excel]

It is important that you take care of yourself during your grieving....You will need all your strength to get through this next few months let alone after that time has passed. People say it gets easier....I don't know....guess it does in some ways. We spread my daughter's ashes last weekend....it was very hard but I felt better knowing her wish was completed as she wanted. She lived with me for many years & it was hard to come home & see all the reminders....however it reminds me every day of her goodness....
This isn't meant to be about me, I'm only trying to tell you that you need to take care of yourself & keep busy & talk about your son....it helps....cry as you go along...it's okay....I talk to Kathy all the time, sometimes out loud ....(good thing I live alone, someone would think I'm a nut case if they heard me)....Do your best to comfort others around you as there is relief when you can share your feelings & hear what they are feeling....Pray, pray, pray....God hears you and that too helps....
The night after we said good bye for the last time to Kathy, I took my little dog out for the last potty break before we both went to bed. It was about 11 at night. A bird starting loudly chirping & singing away in the tree in front of my walkway....lasted about 5 minutes....That went on for 3 nights....then it was gone.....haven't heard it again since. I feel that Kathy came to say good bye for me & that she was okay....Keeping that thought has brought be comfort.
I pray that God will comfort you & your family & give you happy thoughts & certainly proud thoughts of all he accomplished...I wish you peace & God's grace during this terrible loss.
God Bless

[sharon]

Thinking of you, Margie, and your sons family at this sad time. I just can't imagine losing one of my children. A big cyber hug going out to you and Roger. Let us know how you're doing and take care of your eye. We're all here for you.

[Echo]

My heart, thoughts and prayers are still with you and his family. Especially his daughter.

Grief is strange and different for everyone. You will find the right path tho for you.

[avalen]

my thoughts and prayers are still with you Margie, and take care of that eye, hope your trip didn't cause any problems with the healing process,
but then we do what we need to cause sometimes we just have to.

[sunshinecruiserTN]

Love you and thinking of you and Roger. Big hugs.

[Redwahine]

My prayers and thoughts are with you.

[snowball]

So sorry that you have to go through this wish that there was more we could do for you
just know that my thoughts and prayers are with you
sheila

[ellenw]

We don't know each other, so my thoughts of condolence feel somewhat superfluous. But maybe, just knowing that even a stranger was thinking of you, will bring comfort at some time in the future.

Ellen

[carold]

Everyone has said it all beautifully so I'll just add some extra hugs to the pot. You and Roger take care of yourselves. carold