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Dawn, I'm so sorry to read this post and know how upset you have got to be. I have never understood children feeling that it was their "right" to have an inheritance. I always felt that my parents gave me 18+ years of everything I needed and had no obligation to give me any more. But I guess the world is full of shallow people who would rather take something away from someone else than to work for it on their own.

Sounds to me like you have it under control and are doing "right" by the girls even if it wasn't exactly what chuck would have wanted. Just remember, what come around goes around...theirs will come back to them some day.

We were afraid of this happening with our youngest also, so we set up a living trust basically stating that everything was mine until I die in addition to the wills. We also put clauses in all of them that if anyone tried to break the trust or will they would immediately be cut out. The other 5 kids all said, you worked for it, it's yours until you're gone. Go, have fun. So sorry this is happening to you at this time in your life.

So sorry this is happening. I personally wish you would talk to your attorney before you do anything that make it hard financially on you. If you want to give a gift to the one daughter, that's up to you.It sounds to me personally like she doesnt have a case. She just got an attorney to tell her what she wanted to hear. And usually everything goes to the suvuving spouse then the children. And property usually has right of survivorship and goes directly to the spouse. I don't know why but I had a little suspicion when I heard she wasnt sigining the papers. Also, did you already have their names on the land title or something? Go see a lawyer today and big hugs friend. Wendy

Dawn, am so sorry this is happening to you. I agree about consulting an attorney yourself. There is a possibility that a simple phone call from your attorney to the other attorney advising what the middle daughter would testify to in court would give that attorney ALL the facts. Why do so many children feel like they have a RIGHT to what their parents worked so hard for? I have a gd who has this sense of entitlement - that the world OWES her without her having to put forth much, if any, effort.

I am so sorry to hear about the youngest child contesting the will. Why does money have to bring out the greedy part in normally good people? I just don't understand some kids and their sense of entitlement.

I hope it all works out well for you Dawn and I pray the younger kid comes to her senses.

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Oh, Dawn, you are in such pain! Do whatever you have to do for YOU! Talking to the lawyer is a good step. But, I repeat, do what is best for you. I firmly believe no generation owes another generation anything once all the parties are grownups. Sometimes it seems like no matter how tight you think you have tied up the strings, they unravel!

You don't need this stress right now and I'd say repeat to yourself over and over that once this is all behind you, you can pick and choose which family members you want to be close to. It's unfortunate, but death brings out the monster in so many folks.

I had some family members who made life stressful for me. I asked myself if I could face living the rest of my life without them in my life. The answer was "yes". End of problem. It's a wonderful freeing feeling. I hear from one of them now and then, but I don't initiate anything and I'm simply polite when they call.

Pooker

Anyway you can have escrow/title co. put the 25% in a separate escrow account or trust account to satisfy closing and the $$ would be on hold until the issues with said daughter are resolved??? I know of this being done in several cases I know.

Dawn - so sorry for your pain in hear in your post. Unfortunately, these situations are so common. Was/is there a Living Trust in play? Maybe you should have a conversation with your attorney. Would hate to see you get in a law suit because the lawyers are the only ones that get $$$. Sounds like the daughter causing the problems is the one that is and always will have financial problems?? Good luck to you and please keep your positive attitude. This too shall pass.

Linda

I can't add anything to what others have already said. It's hard to understand these things happening. I agree to do what feels best for you so you can move on with your plans. (((hugs)))

I'm sorry Dawn, do what will make it easier for you. (((((((HUGS))))))

You can get an attorney to sue anyone for anything. Doesn't mean they are going to win. Most attorneys don't care, they think they will get paid either way. I feel like Red, put the money in an escrow account and make sure she doesn't get a penny until the closing goes through. Then I would send her check to her lawyer so he can take what he wants. I'm not vindictive or anything.

Martha

So sorry this is happening. Doesn't it always seem that the one who did the least thinks they deserve the most? I see it over and over in families. Doesn't have to be much money either to bring out the worst in people. I hope it works out for you and that you can get on with your plans.