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Many of you know that my Mom has been suffering with Alzheimer's for over 10 years....Well, she finally is at peace as she past away this afternoon.....She lived to be 80 years and 3 days....we all smile because she always told us that she was born in July....got married in July....and that she would die in July....guess she knew something we didn't.....

We will be taking the new 5er and heading home on Thursday....Her viewing is Friday and the funeral is Saturday.....she will be buried in our family cemetery on our family farm....the cemetery was her dream to have one on the farm...and she worked hard to get all the info and regulations to "get 'er done".....It is named after my twin nephews who died at birth.....and were first to occupy the acre plot....then my SIL......my Dad...my Brother....and now my Mom....

Someone asked me today why I didn't seem to be all upset about her passing..(I guess they expected me to be crying, etc.)......I've learned that with Alzheimer's, you mourn losing that person long before the body goes....My Mom's mind, spirit, and who she was, started leaving this earth about 6 years ago....now my 3 sisters, my brother, and the rest of the family will lay to rest her body......We'll celebrate her life with pictures, stories, laughter and yes, some tears....Knowing that she is where she is whole and with the man she loves.....

Thank you all for letting me express my feelings tonight.....It helps to write down my thoughts....and you are all part of my family.....

Love ya' All,
Lori

rvgrammy1953 wrote:
Someone asked me today why I didn't seem to be all upset about her passing..(I guess they expected me to be crying, etc.)......I've learned that with Alzheimer's, you mourn losing that person long before the body goes....My Mom's mind, spirit, and who she was, started leaving this earth about 6 years ago....now my 3 sisters, my brother, and the rest of the family will lay to rest her body......We'll celebrate her life with pictures, stories, laughter and yes, some tears....Knowing that she is where she is whole and with the man she loves.....

Thank you all for letting me express my feelings tonight.....It helps to write down my thoughts....and you are all part of my family.....

Love ya' All,
Lori

And you are part of all our families too, Lori! I am sorry to hear about your mom, but what you said above is so true. Mom, as you remember her best, was taken from you long ago. The person left behind was not all Mom. Celebrating her life as you have expressed brings honor to her spirit and soul! Mom and Dad are celebrating you too as you remember who they are and keep the memories alive! ((((hugs to you and your family)))

Aww Lori, so sorry. Sorry for the loss of your mom over the years and sorry for the real loss today. Sometimes it's just a relief when someone goes home, I know it was when my grandma went. She was ready and had been for a long time. Big hugs to you and yours....and of course, as Li said, we are all your family, too. We've grieved with you before and will this time, too.

God bless you Lori and big hugs.

Travel safe and enjoy the bittersweet moments with your family as you bring back and refresh those memories that are the best. Love and a hug.....

(((Hugs)))

Adding my condolences and ((hugs)) to you as well, Lori. carold

It is a hard time to go through even when you expect it and even pray for it. I'm sure that she is much happier now that she can remember everything...
our best to you Lori ((((hugs))))
sheila

Lori, you expressed your heart beautifully. I hope you can share those loving thoughts at the funeral so others can find the peace you have. May God bless you and your family.

((((((((((((((((((((((((( Lori ))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

Love you dear friend. Anything you need or I can do - well, you know.

Oh Lori , so sorry to hear this. My best live to you and yours.

Lori - So sorry for your loss but as you said, you rally have been losing her for years. She is at peace now. Peace to you and your family.

Linda

Hugs to you and your family. Safe travels.

Lori, my mom had Alzheimers too when she passed four years ago last week. I felt guilty at first because I felt such a sense of relief and almost happiness. Where was the grief? Looking back, I realized I had been grieving for all the little losses of her along the way for the many years leading up to that day, and I was as ready as she was, for her to cross over. I knew now that she was whole and happy now and I was happy for her. She was my best friend and I still talk to her all the time, as I feel her around me often. There is a special bond between mother and daughter that nothing, not even death, can shake.

I hope you can cherish the memories now and talk and laugh about all the good times you shared together. I will be thinking of you and sending prayers for your family as you prepare for her life's celebration and your good-byes.

(((Lori))) I am so sorry for the loss of your Mom. Travel safely and take care of you.