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When Will it End?

PostPosted: Tue Jan 04, 2011 4:47 pm
by AlmostThere
I just got a phone call from my DD that her father-in-law's family is being called to his hospital bedside and they are going to be taking him off life support.
My SIL (son in law), was such a wonderful support to the family when we buried my X husband just 3 wks ago.
My poor little GDs will have lost both grandpas.
All prayers and good thoughts are so appreciated.

Re: When Will it End?

PostPosted: Tue Jan 04, 2011 4:56 pm
by mitch5252
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Lenora, I'm so sorry for you and your family...what you all have gone through this past year.
{{{ hugs }}}

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Re: When Will it End?

PostPosted: Tue Jan 04, 2011 4:57 pm
by VickieP
Lenora, hopefully it will end soon, I know this is so hard on you and you definitely don't need more stress and loss at this time. Hugs and prayers for you and your family.

Re: When Will it End?

PostPosted: Tue Jan 04, 2011 5:03 pm
by bikerchic777
Dang, Lenora! So sorry for all your family tragedy :( Prayers for you and your family. Weren't you having surgery on your scalp? What is the news there?

Re: When Will it End?

PostPosted: Tue Jan 04, 2011 5:46 pm
by Liz
Sending my prayers to you and the family too. Not much else to say. (((((Lenora)))))

Re: When Will it End?

PostPosted: Tue Jan 04, 2011 6:59 pm
by Carolinagal
Lenora, I'm so sorry, to hear this. Prayers going your way for alllllll of the family. (((((((((((((((((((Hugs)))))))))))))))

CArol

Re: When Will it End?

PostPosted: Tue Jan 04, 2011 7:02 pm
by Pooker
I'm so sorry. Your family is getting hit all at once. Add my hugs to all the others.

Pooker

Re: When Will it End?

PostPosted: Tue Jan 04, 2011 7:03 pm
by Bethers
Hugs to you and your family, Lenora. Hard decision to make, but just a word to the caution - being taken off life support doesn't always mean a quick end. My Mom lived almost 4 more years after. They said that couldn't happen - they were wrong. I hope, for you and your families, that when taken off, he goes quickly - peacefully - and that you can all come to peace. Hugs.

Re: When Will it End?

PostPosted: Tue Jan 04, 2011 7:25 pm
by pattyk
You sure have had it rough lately. ((((Hugs)))) to you and your family.

Re: When Will it End?

PostPosted: Tue Jan 04, 2011 7:37 pm
by retiredhappy
((((((Hugs to your and your family.))))))

Re: When Will it End?

PostPosted: Tue Jan 04, 2011 8:09 pm
by flick4411
Lenora,

So very sorry to hear that your family is on the verge of another lost loved one. I hope that if he cannot come back "whole" that he passes on without any suffering. Sending lots of hugs and virtual strength to you and your family. Keep those GDs close, hug them alot; they will appreciate the love and will return it tenfold.

Re: When Will it End?

PostPosted: Tue Jan 04, 2011 8:11 pm
by Echo
I am so sorry for the family, your SIL and GD's.

Will be sending prayers that SIL's father passes quickly, quietly and peacefully. And that they all find peace and closure for themselves.

Re: When Will it End?

PostPosted: Tue Jan 04, 2011 8:20 pm
by AlmostThere
Thank you all so much for your outreach of love.
I forgot to add that my youngest GD (who will be 9 on Thursday and was to have a birthday party), was diagnosed with walking pneumonia yesterday and is on antibiotics. Say some extra prayers for her. She's the one with the most tender heart when it comes to loving others.
Beth, they put a trach in him yesterday, and have had to put him on kidney dialysis, so I don't think this is going to be prolonged after they stop the machines.

Yesterday I visited the social securty office to ask some questions about getting SS when I turn 62 this year, getting my ducks in a row. I explained that I was to draw from my Xs SS and that he just passed away. Come to find out I qualify as the widow, but have to show certified proof of: my birth, our marriage and our divorce. So off to the court house to get the divorce papers. I have my birth certificate but had to call the county courthouse in Illinois where we were married to get them to send me a copy of that.

Today I got the Letter of Testamentary from the lawyer to give to the bank to close out my Xs account. Well, not so fast. The bank allows up to 40 days for them to release the funds. ;)

I then stopped by a bank here in town to open an estate account and get a Tax ID#. Figured I'd get that out of the way. I also stopped by the auto liscensing place to see if it would be to my benefit to get the pickup and RV titled in my name before selling them. Seems it would cost 27.50 ea to retitle and would take up to 6 wks to get the new ones, or if I sold either of them I could just show up at the liscensing place with the buyer and do a straight across transfer then. I think I'll opt for the second one.

Linda Sue, my scalp surgery is on the 17th, first cataract eye surgery the next day 18th), follow-up to that the day after (19th). Then the next week, the other eye and follow up.

Tomorrow, dentist appt.

Did I mention I'm tired.... :) Thanks again, ladies...

Re: When Will it End?

PostPosted: Tue Jan 04, 2011 8:28 pm
by mtngal
So sorry to hear about other grandpa, (((((hugs)))) to family. You take care of yourself, so much on your plate!

Re: When Will it End?

PostPosted: Tue Jan 04, 2011 8:30 pm
by BirdbyBird
Sending some extra strength to you and yours. The GDs are definitely going to need you to give them some extra hugs. Good luck with handling all the details with the bank/s and SS and the list goes on and on...but there will be a time when it is finished and you will be able to continue on your path......