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Kim, I hope all goes well with your gall bladder surgery tomorrow and you'll be on the quick road to recovery and after that, just on the road!

Rest easy, sleep well, and wake up without a gall bladder and 3 little tummy scars!

Ditto what Mitch said!

I can't even BEGIN to tell you how much your thoughts/prayers mean to me!!!

I'm having a really rough time of it right now....the Mom that was supposed to take Sarah to school/pick her up on Wedl, backed out on me at the last minute, and now I'm going to have to keep Sarah out of school and take care of her and myself all by myself with no help whatsoever.

I'm upset that no one can seem to take five minutes out of their day to help out-- feeling very much alone and let down. I'm finding myself missing my family so much through all of this--family has to be there for you; without making you feel like a burden. Going through surgery/recovery alone is not fun. Knowing that I have to come home and immediately care for a vibrant 7 year old is daunting. Beyond that, my feelings are so hurt---I go out of my way for others whenever I can, and yet whenever I need help, no one is there. Knowing that you guys are thinking/praying about me lifts my spirits in ways that I can't even tell you. Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!!!

Wow, Kim. Never in a million years did I think there was another person like me in the world, I'm your true kindred soul. After a very rough pregnancy (with two months of strict bed rest and on and off hospitalization) I was dropped off at home fresh off a C-section and having a 5 pound little baby to care for with no help. My husband helped at night but he worked long hours. I did it, there was no choice and I probably made it look easy. Oh yeah, there was a five year old boy too, at least his ride to school showed up. You can do it and you will. My advice is treat yourself like the queen that you are. Take care of yourself first so you can take care of that child.

I don't even know you and you will for sure be in my thoughts and prayers tomorrow.

You'll get through this and gain a heap of self respect for yourself in the process. You probably don't even know how strong you really are.

Karen.

That's too bad that the woman bailed on you like that! What was she thinking? Just a tiny favor and she can't even do that! If I lived close to you, I would be there to help you out! What about that social worker gal?

I hope the surgery goes well. I've heard it is a piece of cake nowdays so it shouldn't take too long to recover. I am sure your daughter will understand that you won't be up to doing much for awhile.

Just think of all the other struggles you've had and overcome and you will find the strength to deal with this too. Who is driving you to the hospital and back? Surely you won't be able (or allowed) to drive yourself home!

wow that is too bad wish right now that I was in Iowa and close by so we could stop by...where are you at by the way? That is a shame...remember when I had my second dd she was a wee one and I needed to have something removed off my wrist was so upset couldn't find anyone to help out finely asked my next door neighbor and she was able to but those that I thought I could count on I couldn't and it was very upsetting...I had my gall bladder removed years ago and truly when I'd healed from my surgery I thought I must not have felt well for a long time I felt so much better....it will be good in the long run you take care ok
sheila

Good luck tomorrow, Kimberly, everything will work out. Sometimes thing happen for a reason that we don't know till later or not at all, just know that you will be with your daughter and she will be safe with you even if you can't be 100% yourself for a while.

Kim, I hope your surgery goes well. While I'm aware that modern gall bladder surgery is much less invasive, it makes me think about my personal philosophy: The difference between major surgery and minor surgery is that minor surgery is a procedure performed on you instead of me.

Having said that, I hope you heal quickly. I'm sad that the people for whom you have been of service aren't showing up for you.

I'll be praying for you, Kim. Check back in when you can.

Will be thinking of you today, Kimberly. Sorry to hear that the people you were relying on were unreliable and so late in notifying you that you didn't have time to make other arrangements. carold

Dear Kim, I am sure there are a lot of us on here, that can relate to the alone feeling you are having. Wondering where the people are that you always help etc. When I have a problem and need help, I first pray about it, then try not to worry.(easier said then done) Usually it works out for me. I live in an area, that I am miles and hrs. away from family, so I know this feeling well. I am so sorry, that now, when you can have this surgery that a mother backs out, that is causing you the most worry and hurt at this time. But there were times when my children were very young, that I was very ill, and they loved helping MOm out, made them feel good to be helping. The way you have talked about Sarah, I think she will love taking care of her Mama and really being of help to you. I wish you had said if you had transportation or not after the surgery. If I lived closer, I would love to be of any help that I could for you right now, think there are plenty of others who feel the same on here. Thats whats great about the forum, you are never really alone. (in thoughts at least) When you get down into the Tn. area, several of us, will be closer. Doesn't help now though, I know.

You and Sarah, are in my prayers, I haven't had this surgery, but I know so many who have, and seems to be a piece of cake, not that I want my piece Your biggest problem seems to be the welfare of your daughter, so I will add that special need to my prayers for you.

God Bless, He seems to have been your friend for years and He will see you through this too, and everything will work out, you'll see.
Carol

The wonderful thing about this forum is that you're never alone mentally. That said, I know we all wish we were closer so one of us could help you out. I agree that Sarah would probably love being your "nurse". Have you thought about calling her school and asking about a ride for her? Take care of yourself - this too shall pass.

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Kim, I hope everything went better than expected yesterday and that you're on the mend with the help of your little nurse, Sarah!


Please check in when you get a chance.

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mitch5252 wrote:..

Kim, I hope everything went better than expected yesterday and that you're on the mend with the help of your little nurse, Sarah!


Please check in when you get a chance.

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Hi, all;

Just wanted to check in to update you guys on my surgery. Thank you all for your well-wishes/prayers, too!

Well, as many of you know, I have multiple, major health issues, so there is no such thing as a "piece of cake" surgery in my case. The dr. was quite surprized when he got to my gall bladder, it was extremely diseased and said I was a very sick woman...thankfully we "got it out in time." Fortunately, they are able to do it laproscopically (sp?), despite the severe swelling and advanced stage of disease.

I did awake to a expected major side affect from my brain injury---major cognitive dysfunction. It took a long time for my brain to wake up afterwards, and I had to have an improptu physical therapy session and go for a "walking lesson," reconnecting the pathways from my brain to remind it how to make my legs walk again (just like rehab all over again!). Other than that, I did fairly well in that department....

Came home and slept fitfully on the sofa for the night. Mrs. B woke me at around 7 to tell me that when she let the dogs out to do their business, my little Gracie had apparently hurt herself and was't walking right. I asked her to bring her to me on the sofa, figuring that she'd gotten stepped on by one of the bigger dogs. She came up on the sofa with me and we fell back to sleep for another three hours.

After waking up again, I asked Sarah to go put the other two dogs out back, and I would take Gracie out front. Sarah had no sooner got to the steps, and came running back, saying, "Mom! Something's wrong with Dawson, too---he can't walk either!!!" I went to him, and put two and two together, realizing that Grace hadn't been stepped on at all; that she and Dawson were seriously sick. I called my dog training friend, and another friend (who serves on my board of directors and drove 1/1/2 to come help me). They came over to help me get Dawson up and stay with me for the rest of the afternoon. I had gotten Dawson out to the yard to try to get him to "go", but then he went down, and by the time I'd done the steps, gotten myself outside, and tried to get him up, I was absolutely in agony and exhausted from the effort. I started balwling my eyes out===so overwhelmed that I couldn't help my "babies", I was in so much pain by then and started spiking a high fever (complete with Lyme pain), exhausted from the effort.

My friends arrived and we called our vet who agreed with our assesment that we thought it was the food giving them intense gastro issues (my GSD had gotten sick earlier in the week, but I thought it was the weather/decrease in exercise. I've been through this type of illness with foods before---and it really stinks, because they're on very high end, organic diets! You'd think that those companies would keep the formulas consistent).

In any case, the vet said to make them walk every few hours to move their guts and just keep an eye on them..fasting them until at least tomorrow. We called the corporate headquarters of the dog food company (Merrick) and filed a formal complaint. They state they haven't changed the formula, but for all three of the dogs to get so violently ill, there must have been some sort of change somewhere. In any case, I'm changing formulas after next week (going to cook for them for a few days to ensure that this is all out of their systems). They are starting to feel better, and are moving around now (with prodding, but not physical pushing anymore). My friends just left a little bit ago, and I'm finally getting the rest that I should've been getting all along!


So no, nothing went as planned, but we're all on the mend now----all still hurting pups, but with rest, we should be right as rain in a few days It's never dull on my end!!!

Thanks again for all your thoughts/prayers. Will be in touch again when I'm a bit stronger.