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Vicky posted this to Moms account. Thought I'd share.

hi....my name is vicky and i am married to patty's youngest son tom....im sorry that we've kept everyone in the dark for the last few weeks..bob and lori got things taken care of in pahrump and got patty delivered to our home in colorado three weeks ago...since then we have had a few doctor appts to try and figure things out....we all knew it probably wasn't going to be good news...so this is whats going on.....she has seen her new family physician..he referred us to the rocky mountain cancer center in longmont, colorado...the doctor there set up a cat scan and biopsy for this past wednesday....she did wonderful....still waiting on those tests to come back...the past week, she has gone downhill...mostly with her memory and her appetite....the memory part was really concerning me, since it just came on out of the blue...yesterday morning she fell in the bathroom, did not hurt herself, her legs just gave out..she could walk pretty good on wednesday, yesterday whole new scenario....so, luckily this happened just before tom left for work...we decided that we were taking her to the ER....I have met some wonderful nurses and doctors in the last couple days....they listened to everything i had to say and then went to work to figure out what was going on with her....she had blood work, an xray, a cat scan with contrast, and a MRI done yesterday....she has a extremely high level of calcium in her system...this is causing the fatigue, the memory problems and some heart issues...they are trying to get that problem under control now...the doctor sat down with us last evening and talked to us...she has cancer...the cancer has matastisized....it has spread....the calcium problem is caused by the cancer cells...she also has some kidney failure happening...may slow down after they get the calcium problem under control....this will be a short term fix....unfortunately, she is terminal....after talking with the doctor, tom and i have decided on the following course of action.....she is also NOT a candidate for treatment of any kind...doctor said it would probably kill her.....when they release her from ICU in a day or two, tom and i will be bringing her home to our house....we will be getting hospice set up and i will have all the help i need to take care of her...there will be no treatment....we will keep her comfortable and as happy as we can.....unfortunately the doctors best guess at this time, is that she has a couple of months left....this has happened so fast for us, but we are sure in our decision that we have made the right decision....if you have any questions feel free the message me or Tom Kenyon, Bob R Kenyon, or Lori Alvarez Kenyon.... i am so sorry that this was probably not the news that everyone was hoping for.......The

Wow, that is so sad. I feel so bad for her and her family and friends! Will send prayers to all for strength, and hope for a peaceful passing.

Thanks Anita for passing along the update!

So sad but she is so lucky to have wonderful capable caring family to care for her to the end. Will pray for a peaceful end for her.
Velda

Definitely not what we wanted hear, but so very thankful for the update

This is just awful. I don't know what to say except that Patty and family will be in my prayers.
Sandi

Wishing her a loving and peaceful journey.

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So heartbreaking.
I also pray for a peaceful journey.

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Vicky - Thank you so much for this update. I never met Patty but she is so fortunate to have you, your husband and family to care for her in this time of need.
Prayers to all of you!!

Linda

Prayers for Patty and all of her family ...

May she and her family find some peace and grace to sustain their spirits as they travel this new road ahead.....

Prayers to Patty and her family

To all of you who knew and loved Patty, I'm so very sorry that you are losing her. I wish her a peaceful journey.

Nikki

when I read the news on FB wasn't really surprised had hoped that we would have news that it was
treatable but...prayers for her and her family it is a hard road
sheila

I did not really know her, but sorry to hear this bad news. Hope her family can keep her comfortable.

Vicki, thank you for the update. I"m am so sorry and I know this has come on fast. As I read your post, I was thinking of my aunt as she had a lot of same symptoms Patty has. Turns out with her it was a brain tumor and inoperable at that time. Things have changed much since. But she too went downhill fairly fast. And my mom had colon cancer and after a few months of chemotherapy, was finally declared terminal as well. We brought her home and Hospice came in They were wonderful and helped my her last days so comfortable, so I know well what your family is going through. The shock and reality of it can be numbing, but I know you have made the right decisions. Patty is so lucky to have a such a caring family. I will keep you and your family in my prayers and hope for a quiet, calm passing for Patty when the final days arrive.