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All I want is... peace & my life so I can enjoy it and live it... I don't want to whine ...rant... rave.. or carry on so that's all I have to say... except maybe I need a glass of wine....

bluepinecones wrote:(((((((Hugs))))))
P.S. sometimes ranting helps and we are here for you

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Thinking of you. Try some relaxation/meditation exercises. They don't make the sh&?t all go away but they do help you move through it without drowning.

And slow walks, long walks help a lot too. More (((hugs))).

Hey, girl - rant, rave, moan, groan, stamp your feet. These friends aren't only here for the good stuff, you know. (((more hugs)))

Pooker

Also, sometimes you need to just take a deep breath, let it out slowly... Just take one day, one hour, or sometimes even just one minute at a time. And like they say "this too shall pass".

Everybody has given great advice . . . so I'll just say "Peace be unto you."

I've been thinking about this thread since I read it last night. So, I'm going to add my two cents. I don't know what's causing your anxiety, Donna, but I'll guess that at least some of it is Phoebe. It's probably been said somewhere else, but I'll say it again: It is perfectly OK for you to let Phoebe go to someone who enjoys rehabilitating dogs and find a calm loving companion for yourself. In my opinion it is even the right thing to do. I gave up a rescue that had the same issues Phoebe has. I felt so guilty because I thought I was supposed to give Scarlett all the love and time and patience she needed. After six months of hell for me, Olive and Scarlett, I took her back to the agency I got her from. They had more information and found a better placement. Now I have Matty who is an absolute delight. Olive adores him. I got over the guilt but there were lots of tears shed. Now I know I did the right thing.

That's my two cents worth. If I'm off base ignore me. I believe you deserve peace and serenity and a dog who helps you have those things.

Big hugs

Nikki

I agree with Nikki!! Your peace and sanity are most important!

Hi everyone I'm sorry I should have explained but I was too upset and I just had to get a few words out at least but its not Pheebe... i know she has her issues and they are major we will work on them and resolve them .... she is precious to me and is helping me right now... the problem is my dad he's 91 years old he needs to sell this house I can't keep it up and neither can he he fell again the other day he's okay but I'm not okay... it's getting to be too much for me and he won't sell the house and go into assisted living I've told them that I'm old also I'm 70 years old and I have health issues in my back and spine and prevents me from doing all the things I could do 10 years ago but it doesn't seem to matter... going to just shut up right now because I don't want to get all worked up again but thanks for all your input... have a good one...donna
PS .. dog could never get somebody this upset only another human being could do that

I know what you are going through, I went through it with my mother. Does Florida have Council on Aging places? We have that here but I don't know what kind of services they offer. I know there are buses that pick up seniors and take them to the stores and doctors. Maybe check with one of those places and see if there is anything available.

I hope I can remember to make better choices for the sake of my boys. My younger one likes to tell me that he gets to pick my nursing home. That's not funny anymore.

Martha

Oops. I'm so sorry that you're going through this, Donna.

I can also relate. My dad is having more mobility and memory issues and he also refuses to leave his house. He does have a renter who checks on him every day for us so that helps. But it is very frustrating! I would check with social services and see what your options are. The extreme route is to get the courts to let you force him into a nursing facility but that is very difficult emotionally and to even prove he is unable to care for himself. There are other options out there. If he refuses any help, there really isn't much you can do. You can only take care of yourself. It is very difficult emotionally to be in your position. I feel for you!

Here the Tri-County Council on Aging has a support group for caregivers. Maybe there's one near you. People often have practical suggestions based on their own experience -- and even when they don't, just being in a room with people dealing with the same problems is enormously comforting!