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I think I had mentioned that hubby had scans after a needle biopsy of lymph nodes right side of his neck ( opposite side of where palate surgery was done ). Yesterday Dr called to tell us the lymph nodes on right side of his neck " lit up" on the scan and a little on left too. So they want to schedule him for a modified radical neck dissection to remove lymph nodes on both sides as soon as possible. However, there are many bad side effects long term from that surgery! Because this is supposed to be a slow growing tumor ( and was never supposed to have reached lymph nodes) and we are not at all sure this is new as his lymph nodes were felt after his tooth broke in the fall two years ago after radiation, we are really debating what to allow the doctors to do. Mel just does not want anymore long term disabilities thrust on him, and prefers quality of life over long time with terrible side effects. And there is the problem with difficulty in anesthesia due to not being able to open his jaw far. It's really weighing on us. We see the doctor on August 11 supposedly for pre-op but in fact for us its a fact finding mission and we have no intention unless something changes of signing surgical consent that day.
Please keep us in your thoughts as we make important and life altering decisions in the weeks to come. This man never does anything easy it seems! As I've said in the past, he knew what he was doing when he married a nurse!
Velda

Velda - Prayers going up for your husband and you his private nurse. How fortunate is Mel to have you at his side! You both will make the right decisions. Thanks for keeping us informed on what you need to deal with. Take care,

Linda

Velda, I am so sorry you are facing these decisions. Keeping you and hubby in thoughts and prayers. Hugs!!

keeping you in prayers

Sending prayers for you both as you make these difficult decisions.

You both will be in my prayers.
Sandi

Warm healing thoughts headed your way, so sorry you're having to deal with this.

Prayers, warm thoughts, hugs. You and Mel are supported here with whatever decision is made.

(Edited to correct name So sorry - not sure if that was me or auto correct on my phone!)

Thinking of you both and may you find the strength to move through there coming days and decisions with a core of peace to carry you.

It's never easy is it??? Prayers of course
sheila

His name is Mel! Thanks one and all for your support.
Velda

So very sorry to hear this news sending prayers for your husband and you

Never ever an easy decision and my heart goes out to you. Thank goodness you're smart enough to do research and not take the docs word as to what is best for your precious Mel. Keep us in the loop and know that we have your back. Big huge cyber hug going out to you!

Prayers and support coming your way as you make the right decisions for you.
Brenda

Sending prayers, strength and (((hugs))) to both you & Mel.