Where's Mitch?

[Cudedog]

Been reading about Wheres Vicki - add to that Wheres Mitch?

Anne

[WickedLady]

See "Cake Lady"

[BarbaraRose]

She still lurks and posts occasionally. I think she mostly posts on Facebook now. Just not the same on here tho, without her. or Vickie So I guess I am the only dewfus left on here...

[WickedLady]

Don't care.

[dpf]

Since the post asking about Vickie is locked I will reply here because it appears to continue the original post.

At the beginning of January I messaged Vickie on Facebook to check on her since she hasn’t posted in a long time and I missed her. She replied that she had a rough year and was just distancing herself from the Forum and Facebook for several personal reasons for a while. Let’s respect that and hope that she comes back when she’s ready....that goes for Mitch too.

Now I’m going to address what I see as a problem. I’m not a regular poster because I live a rather boring life and really don’t want to submit all of you to my every day grind. I do read the forum every day. However I can’t help but notice that many long-time members are posting very seldom or at all anymore. Maybe the problem is more of us tend to go to Facebook because a simple “like” can let the poster know that we read and appreciate whatever was posted. It is instant gratification. But I do feel that some members on this forum have been unduly chastised for their posts. I felt that way once when I posted a joke and someone was offended because of their past experience and took it personally. I had no intention of stepping on toes. I won’t say that on several occasions that I haven’t wanted to tell someone to “cowgirl up” “put on your big girl panties” “can’t you find something more important to get your briefs in a knot?” But really what good would it do? Maybe we should be more like Thumper in Bambi….”If you can’t say something nice don’t say nothing at all”

This forum was founded because of misunderstandings on another forum and it’s been quite active for about seven years. I’ve met some fantastic women because of it. I would hate to see the stereotype that a bunch of women can’t be together without a cat fighting be the demise of this forum. One bad thing about forum posts is that a person’s inflection cannot be determined by the written word…most of the time. I personally would strike back when I feel that a friend or I is being attacked. I think the majority of people will. I have a saying posted in my shop “10% of misunderstandings are caused by what was said and 90% because of how it was said” She says as she steps off her soap box.

[BarbaraRose]

….”If you can’t say something nice don’t say nothing at all”

This is good advice anywhere...
That said, there have been a few times that I have received unpleasant responses to things I have posted. I have overlooked those comments because I have so many good friends on here and enjoy this forum and all the things I learn, and the laughs and support I get, that I am not willing to let one person spoil that over a thoughtless, angry or misconstrued comment. In other words, I don't throw the baby out with the bathwater.

Love you gals!

[JudyJB]

Thank you.

Can I add that I understand how Facebook is easier, but I miss the postings here that are going onto Facebook? I have a Facebook account but I limit it to family and a very few old friends. I like having this forum separate from that small group. Sometimes I feel as though I am missing things.

In any case that is my choice. I like to think the best of people and understand that we all get angry sometimes and say things we shouldnt. I am very grateful to all of you here for the support and friendship you have given me.

[Bethers]

Thanks, Pat - you said it all. And now - let's hope either or both Vicki and Mitch decide to post more - and many others who no longer are.

I am not going to chastise anyone for what or how they've posted on either thread. Feelings and toes have obviously been stepped on - but it sure would be nice if we could be the kinder, nicer people that most of us find when we meet each other in person.

That said, this thread is now also being locked ... and let's go on in other threads to be good to each other.

Please.