AZGramTN wrote:I am so bummed, I've been looking for over 3 months and just don't know whats the matter other than I don't have the guts to plunge in.
I'm a newbie here, too, but I just brought home my OWN (not the "family's...but mine) Class C, yesterday. 4th RV...but 1st one for just me.
I panicked and freaked all day, everyday...thinking all kinds of crazy thoughts....and lost sleep. Honestly, if I hadn't gotten on this forum, in the beginning, and saw with my own eyes how many women RV alone, and from the same age group as me...I would have never done it.
Even though I was scared inside...I never let it show to either DH (and he was against this from the start...and I think right now is waiting for me to fail), or any of the salesmen (never any saleswomen...right?) I had to talk to. Of course, my whole adult life I have been hard on salesmen...maybe cause I had to work with them a lot when I was very young...and they were quite abusive...I tell ya, but I think having that disdain for them really helped...no joke!
I tried everything I could to calm myself down (exercise, herbs, supplements), and when I finally managed that...even if it was just for a few minutes...I let the "good" thoughts in. I imagined being able to go to places I love...whenever I want. I imagined being able to visit my aging father...whenever I want (even tho DH didn't hesitate to point out how me and my father don't get along as well as I would like
). And getting to travel with my DD, which she is looking SO forward to.
AND getting away from DH whenever I want
I also talked to my DD about it. She is way more rigid and unbending about stuff than me. And she would be able to look at something and go, "Ah...no." Then, on a more favorable unit she would point out something that she knew about me that would work in that unit. That lead me to hang onto that little revelation and apply it to the next better one I saw. It was giving me confidence, little by little.
I talked to my Dad...he is a nervous/anxious type just like me...and he said learn everything you can first. What's funny is that he's always been that way in his own life...and so have I since my 20s (I'm 55 now), and he said that to me anyway. But just him saying it out loud was a sort of validation that I was on the right track.
Yes, I looked at "impossible" stuff, too. But I would imagine myself in the unit, and go...Ok...that's never going to happen! And it was always logical reasons as to why. I think that was the key for me...what is logical...and what can I really control. If neither one was happening...I got better about ignoring the "wrong" units.
What also helped was actually picturing in my head driving the unit...what was the environment like, what was the weather like...what sort of places was I driving the unit into...how did I handle that? What about when I actually parked and hooked up.
Have you RV'd before...or is this a completely new experience?