Why is it so hard to say goodbye?

[Paulette]

How blessed he was to have you! And that you we're able to honor his final request. I know that empty ache as I experienced the same just 4 years ago when my dad passed. I know it is a different kind of love, but the loss is felt the same. Time, love, laughter...these things help the healing. He will be with you in spirit always.

[carold]

How wonderful that you had that time together; memories to be remembered while you are dealing with your loss. (((hugs))) carold

[Nasoosie]

Hugs to you and your family, Deb. Keep the fun and happy times alive for as long as you are alive, and, after the overwhelming sorrow and pain of loss slowly ease, you will be so thankful you were able to grant him a dying wish and be with him until he said goodbye. We are more resilient than we think we are in times like you are experiencing, but never be afraid to cry out loud for as long as your body needs to begin to recover. Stay in touch with us and you might find yourself laughing long before you think it's possible.

[sharon]

What else can I add? There are quite a few of us that have gone thru this very same thing...some a while ago and some recently. You will find your way in time. And yes, it will be hard, but it can be done. My heart goes out to you and your family. Take time to remember and know that you did a great service to the love of your life by helping him make the transition from this world to the next. Never forget that he is with you every minute. Be still, listen, and you will feel him.

[snowball]

I'm so sorry Deb
may you find the comfort you are in need of
sheila

[bertnspike]

My heart is with you. I am so very sorry and thankful that you had each other.

[Liz]

((((Deb)))) Others have said it all, but know that we are here and you are in our thoughts and prayers.

[dpf]

(((Hugs))) Deb. Please accept my sincere sympathy. When my dad died I received a card from a dear friend with this verse. The verse has come to mean to so much to me that I always choose to spare it with others.


The People We Love Live On In Our Hearts

It takes a long time
to get used to
the loss of someone we love
But it’s important
to remember
that when people die
they leave something
very special behind...

They leave us memories...
of all the unique things
they said and did.
And as long as we have
those memories
the people we love will live
on in our hearts and minds
forever and ever.
It is their special gift to us
and we must cherish it.

[dayspring39]

Deb, Let family, friends and most of all the Lord carry you right now. God bless and keep you...
Kathleen

[Readytogo]

My thoughts are with you. These ladies have said it all so well. One day there will be that time when you can remember the good times and smile. Meanwhile, lean on friends and family. Wendy

[Pooker]

I'm so, so sorry. We all knew the time was near, but it doesn't make the hole in your heart go away. Grasp any signs you see that he is nearby. I firmly believe love continues on beyond this life. Hold all your memories close and bring one out whenever you need it.

Pooker

[mitch5252]

...Grasp any signs you see that he is nearby. I firmly believe love continues on beyond this life.

Amen to that. And I won't even tell you why I believe this, because you would all think I have lost my mind.

..

[BarbaraRose]

My BFF in Florida just lost her sister a week ago and has already gotten two signs from her that she is OK and still with her. I totally believe in that. My mom has left many signs of her presence over the years. It is very reassuring.

Mitch, I would love to hear about the signs you have gotten if you would care to share them...

[Readytogo]

I think I posted at the exact same time Barbie did and I disappeared! The first Christmas my husband was gone I looked out the front window and the yard was covered in redbirds! Mitch, you left it wide open for Vickie to say you've already lost your mind, you know that don't you? (The leaviing wide openpart) I'd also be interested in your experiences only if you want to share. Wendy

[Redetotry]

I am so sorry for your loss Deb. I really loved the poem dpf shared. May you find comfort in your memories, your family and friends.

And for all who have said they believe their loved ones are near and communicating in some way, I totally believe that. One of the classes I have taken for many years is a combination of the study of hypnosis and the metaphysical. People share experiences in that setting you normally wouldn't hear, as we all get to know one another the fear of not being believed is dispelled and they feel comfortable sharing. After hearing so many incidences I came to realize this had to be something that many were blessed with. They are not relating these experiences while in hypnosis. But for me, the study of hypnosis has made it very apparent how powerful and how much that is unknown about the our minds.