What happened to you is one of my biggest nightmares!
I believe I've done, and do, all that I can to protect myself. LIke when our new dentist down here in TN wanted our SSNs, I wouldn't give it to them...no need for them to have it. No problem. I'm EXTREMELY stingy with our SSNs...
I have put a lock on our accounts at EACH of the 3 credit reporting agencies. No one, including me, can apply for credit because of the lock. Each lock was, I think, $7 x 3 agencies x 2 people. If I remember correctly, each state varies the charge. If I need to apply for credit, there is some method to unlock the report for a specific instance. Having these locks in place really put my mind at ease. If you would like me to find and post more information about this service, I will be glad to.
I use Citibank Virtual Account Numbers (appears on monthly credit card statement as "VAN" purchase) for ALL ONLINE purchases. These numbers are generated either at citicards.com, or by a small program installed on my home computer. A one-time use credit card is generated, along with an expiration date (ALWAYS the month following the purchase), and CVC code. So, if the vendor's computer records are hacked, my credit card will be 'expired' and therefore, useless to any thief. I don't know if other issuing banks have a service similar to Citibank. The picture below shows the little program that starts when I need to make an online purchase...
Neither my husband or myself keep our social security cards in our wallets, nor anything with SSN printed on it. When someone somehow got my husband's Citibank Mastercard number (from some old online purcahse), they had a good old time at Christmas '07 in Italy to the tune of $3,500! Grrrrrrrrr...what a pain, but not near as big a PITA as identity theft. Anyway, the lady at the Citibank Fraud Department told me the biggest offender for credit card 'thievery' is at restaurants, where some employee has a machine to double swipe your card and duplicate ALL the information on it. My credit card NEVER leaves my sight - EVER. If I have to follow the waiter into the kitchen, I'm there...if he stops short, he has an unwelcome visitor up his butt.
I'm so sorry this happened to you! What a world, eh?
Here's a link for some reading about locking your credit report:
http://www.consumersunion.org/campaigns/learn_more/003484indiv.htmlSorry this is so long. I want to give you some ammo you might find useful to help protect yourself!