Another Husband Question

[sharon]

Oh my word, Janice! But guess you're right! LOL!

[Fernie]

All I can say is the best $500 I ever spent was getting rid of the S _ _ I was married too. There were good memories with my 2 step kids when they were young but that is all that was good about it. That was back in the early 80s when uncontested divorces was cheep!! HA HA

[Redetotry]

Fernie $500. in the 80's was an increase of $465. from the seventies! I got my divorce in '77 for $35. had one of my friends type it from a sample form out of a book someone loaned me, and it worked! Also in the seventies they made it legal for a woman to be sterilized without her husbands consent! I think younger woman have no idea that any laws existed that would prevent freedom of choice for ones own body.

I had a dream(nightmare) last night about my former DH and trying to get out of the situation! He was a very nice, kind man I just didn't want to be married and live on an isolated farm. OK, some will laugh at my perception of isolated, it was 2 miles from town but we never had company or socialized much. Plus his personality change a lot while we were married. After the divorce he changed even more & turned the place into party central. It was known for miles around for the weekly parties which usually required more than one keg to accommodate the crowds.

[Cedar518]

Fernie $500. in the 80's was an increase of $465. from the seventies! I got my divorce in '77 for $35. had one of my friends type it from a sample form out of a book someone loaned me, and it worked!

When my second husband left me and returned to Alabama he offered to get a cheap divorce down there. I said NO! We'd gotten married in NY and I was going to get divorced in NY,... I took charge, and paid $1,200,..... I know expensive. But I wanted to be sure I was completely rid of that man! The more I read this thread and think about my 2 Xs .... the more I love my CAT!

[wickedxgrl]

Mom put a couple cents worth in for me but I thought I'd add a few of my own, even tho I've never been married.

I have been engaged twice. The 2nd time I did the asking and it was more of a commitment than an actual, legal marriage. I'd been off and on about having kids but I decided after the first broken engagement that I didn't want them. That was at age 21 and I haven't wavered one iota on that decision.

I will be 29 in just a little over 3 weeks. I plan on living the full-timing lifestyle till I am incapable of doing so. For now mom is the only person I care to share space and life with, other than Shade, lol. My only baby will be four-legged, I want my own Pom.

I can't deny that sometimes it would be nice to... How do I put it? I'm not big on cuddling and all that. I need my space and have had some pretty bad luck as ex partners haven't been able to understand that. I've felt forced? I guess that's a way to put it. I don't do well with clingy and I think I've finally learned my lesson on that. Both of the major exes in my life were clingy and I hate feeling smothered. I can't say that I'm the easiest person to live with. I can be very moody, withdrawn, grumpy, you get the idea. Mom and I have spent enough time together, on the road and sharing houses and apartments, that I think we work pretty well together. She doesn't put up with too much bull from me. I once heard a saying that went something like "All my problems disappeared when I became single." Meaning no one was there to crab about the bad habits that bugged their partner, etc.

Mom says I'm going to catch h3ll for saying 'never' but that's how I feel. Having a permanent/committed type relationship can bring enough of it's own hassles without throwing marriage documents into it. I am not against marriage and big kudos to those that it's been a happy arrangement for. It's just simply not for me. My grandparents lived together for over 40 years without it, mom wasn't legitimate till she was 39, lol.

The gist of it all is that I'm never getting married, I feel no need for it and don't want the hassle should it end... I can walk away and at least what I never have to worry about a lawyer deciding who gets what. I know in my heart of hearts I will never change that. For now, at least, I have no desire for a relationship tho I do sometimes get a bit lonely. Like mom said, maybe a traveling buddy/booty call once in a while. Someone that may be going my way and we get friendly or even just keep each other company. Other than that, I'm good.

Wicked, happy to be single

[AlmostThere]

I first went for a legal separation; $500. When I switched to a divorce it was suppose to be more but my lawyer never sent me a bill so I never paid it. I did have to pay $500 each for 2 domestic orders so I could get my share of my X's retirements. He was still working at the time but I got what my share was worth at the time of the divorce.

[jemek]

Mine of 22 years is still here....and I hope we have many many more years to go.
But if something does happen...then I would have to say NO WAY...NO HOW.

I watched my mom (after my parents separated and then my dad passed away shortly there after) and my sister and even an Aunt...go through multiple relationships. The one with my mom is more personal...it was a PIA...as a teen having to deal with all the stuff and then the men in and out. She did finally remarry and the guy was a jerk..she divorced 9 years later and has swore of the men after that. I think I will just skip it all and not worry about it.

Besides...I am a retired military wife...Dh served this country for 24 years. I can and have managed quite well when he was not there.